9 Psychological Facts About Love

Let me start by saying that I'm not a love nor a relationship expert; but I've found these to be true. Growing up, I never questioned what love is because I had a lot of it from my family; and I'll simply tell anyone that love is genuine care, and selflessness. 

I once read a Christian book that said that Agape Love is the purest form of love, but I'm not defining what love is, or is not, today! Below, I'll be sharing some psychological facts about love especially for romantic relationships.

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1. It Is Not Infatuation 

Many people confuse infatuation with attention, se*xual attraction, physical attraction, and affection. True love is much deeper than this, and can exist without all of this. Yes, it's possible to love someone simply because of how they make you feel! This is why I think love at first sight is possible because psychologically, meeting someone for the first time — in most cases, the impression they give us sets the tone for how we ultimately feel about them.

2. Being In Love Is Quite Similar To Using Nar*cotics

Using substances trigger the release of a feel-good brain chemical called dopamine; and dopamine basically tells your brain, "this feels awesome. Let's do it again". Love can also trigger dopamine. People may also have the same experience that comes with dr*ug withdrawal when a relationship is over, or they get heartbroken. 

3. Falling Out Of Love Is As Real As Falling In Love

People often don't talk about this, but it happens — especially when you love someone for the wrong reasons, or other reasons in No.4 below.

4. Falling Out Of Love Doesn't Happen Overnight

Usually, the major reasons people fall out of love, have to do with poor communication, repetitive issues, or even betrayal. It often starts with not being able to let go of the negative thoughts or feelings, i.e., continuously nursing them; then your partner begins to annoy you with almost everything they say or do. Sometimes, it's even the most minute stuff that make us gradually fall out of love. Yes as humans, we can actually fall out of love!

5. Love Is The Second Most Desirable Thing In The World After Money, And Is Equated With Happiness

That is why happiness is seldom without love. Even the rich also want love. I believe this is the reason most of them don't get into relationships, nor commit to one person. Some of them look at it like they're being loved for their money hence they don't consider it to be love. The ones that are rich, but not famous, often disguise as a poor person to look for love. 

Most inspirational and true stories of courage and success, or hate and revenge also have a "love purpose" hidden in them. 

6. Love Is Beautiful, But Can Also Turn Ugly When It Sours

Love is the most beautiful and happiest feeling in life. However, when it sours, it can be the ugliest, worst, or most tragic experience. Yes, you can h@te someone because you love them so much, and they hurt, or betrayed you. You ever heard of a love-hate relationship, or the phrase "there is a thin line between love and h@te".

7. The Person You Love Can Easily Manipulate You

This can also happen in families. A mother can manipulate her son's love for her, a sibling can manipulate a fellow sibling; and sometimes they will disguise it as love. It can also happen in romantic relationships especially if you're in love with a narcissist. Sometimes, they can say or do something that makes you question if they really love you; and when you confront them, they will twist it so well, and often say it's because they love you.

A parent or parents can disrespect your partner, and tell you it's because they love you when in reality, it's because they have no respect for you. 

Love can act like a dr*ug, a weapon, a tool of manipulation, an inspiration, a guide, a compass, a motivation, a miracle, a treasure, a currency, etc. depending on how we look at it and how we use it.

8. If You Have Never Loved, You Haven't Lived

Being in love is a way to experience the most beautiful emotions, and times in your life. However, no one can guarantee what will happen when you fall in love; but it's worth having that experience.

9. Love Doesn't Begin, Nor End At S*ex.

 If love is true, it will cross boundaries like a laser! 

Thank you for reading.There are more facts though, but I may do a part 2 to explain them.  

Stay safe.. 

Xo, Moxie!

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