Hi guys, these are some of the facts I've learnt about relationships, and I hope you find them useful!
1. It's possible to spend all your time with someone for lots of years, and not get sick of them, and also love them more than when you first got together.
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1. It's possible to spend all your time with someone for lots of years, and not get sick of them, and also love them more than when you first got together.
Most people think you will get bored when you've been with someone for a long time, but it's not always true! Couples who understand each other, and truly love each other, tend to share this bond.
3. If they have no respect for you, they will say and do what they want without regards for your thoughts or feelings. It's that simple, and this applies to all relationships - including friendships, and family!
4. Limit your expectations, or you will always be disappointed!
5. Most people have an agenda, and you may not always know!
8. Most people are not thankful nor notice what you do for them until you stop doing those things.
10. The partner that is in the relationship for long term will always try to work things through no matter how painful or difficult it is. This does not include tolerance of continuous abuse or disrespect!
11. The amount of Effort equals their level of interest; and after a while, you should learn to match the energy! If they are attentive, be attentive. If they don't care, and aren't doing anything about it - even after you've complained, learn to do same.
12. If someone only wants to text you online and never makes any plans to see you, understand that that's all the relationship will ever be. If you are looking for something more, move on - unless it is physically impossible to see them face to face.
13. Do not let anyone waste your time. Once time is gone, it's gone forever.
14. Leave the past in the past. Sometimes, people change drastically over the years. In other words, do not think the person you knew then is the same person now.
15. Pay more attention to what a person does than what they say. Anyone can say anything. The truth is in their behavior.
16. Never base a relationship on what ifs or you'll never enjoy the relationship. Focus on the present!
17. When someone tells you they do not want a relationship, believe them. If a relationship is what you are looking for, move on. This person for whatever reason is not open to it at that moment, or ever. If you stay, know that you'll likely be disappointed, hurt, or unhappy, and you can't blame them for that!
18. You cannot love anyone if you do not love yourself; so learn to set boundaries.
19. Some things are better left unsaid. Not everyone appreciates brutal honesty - especially if it's going to crush them or cause an emotional upheaval. Always think it through first. Speak in a tactful way and never deliberately hurt someone. You can never take back what has been said.
20. People will always be the best they will ever be to you in the beginning. So if someone is treating you like sh*t, it’s only going to get worse.
21. If there is no attraction, then it’s not going to work in a romantic relationship. I am not saying it is based solely on looks. What I am saying is that there has to be something about them that you find appealing enough to transition from friends to lovers!
22. People are going to hurt you in one way or another at some point in your life. You will get over it with time.
2. In a relationship where only one person gives, it'll always be that way! The one who takes will always take, and the one who gives will always give. At times the roles might switch but usually it remains the same. This doesn't just apply to couple relationships; it happens in friendships, and family (siblings, parents, guardians) relationships as well.
3. If they have no respect for you, they will say and do what they want without regards for your thoughts or feelings. It's that simple, and this applies to all relationships - including friendships, and family!
4. Limit your expectations, or you will always be disappointed!
5. Most people have an agenda, and you may not always know!
6. Forcing interaction is never a good thing, and it brings resentment. When someone doesn't want to talk to you at the time you want to, give them the space they need till they're ready to talk.
7. There are people that no matter how much you love them, they will never return that love. Learn from the experience and go on with your life!
8. Most people are not thankful nor notice what you do for them until you stop doing those things.
9. The people that stuck by you in your darkest of times are the ones that actually matter!
10. The partner that is in the relationship for long term will always try to work things through no matter how painful or difficult it is. This does not include tolerance of continuous abuse or disrespect!
11. The amount of Effort equals their level of interest; and after a while, you should learn to match the energy! If they are attentive, be attentive. If they don't care, and aren't doing anything about it - even after you've complained, learn to do same.
12. If someone only wants to text you online and never makes any plans to see you, understand that that's all the relationship will ever be. If you are looking for something more, move on - unless it is physically impossible to see them face to face.
13. Do not let anyone waste your time. Once time is gone, it's gone forever.
14. Leave the past in the past. Sometimes, people change drastically over the years. In other words, do not think the person you knew then is the same person now.
15. Pay more attention to what a person does than what they say. Anyone can say anything. The truth is in their behavior.
16. Never base a relationship on what ifs or you'll never enjoy the relationship. Focus on the present!
17. When someone tells you they do not want a relationship, believe them. If a relationship is what you are looking for, move on. This person for whatever reason is not open to it at that moment, or ever. If you stay, know that you'll likely be disappointed, hurt, or unhappy, and you can't blame them for that!
18. You cannot love anyone if you do not love yourself; so learn to set boundaries.
19. Some things are better left unsaid. Not everyone appreciates brutal honesty - especially if it's going to crush them or cause an emotional upheaval. Always think it through first. Speak in a tactful way and never deliberately hurt someone. You can never take back what has been said.
20. People will always be the best they will ever be to you in the beginning. So if someone is treating you like sh*t, it’s only going to get worse.
21. If there is no attraction, then it’s not going to work in a romantic relationship. I am not saying it is based solely on looks. What I am saying is that there has to be something about them that you find appealing enough to transition from friends to lovers!
22. People are going to hurt you in one way or another at some point in your life. You will get over it with time.
That's it, guys! I hope you enjoyed reading ❤️
Xo, Moxie
Gbamsolutely!
ReplyDeleteThis number 16 is my biggest problem
ReplyDelete17! Let me hold my peace. Thanks moxie girl
ReplyDeleteAlways helpful. Thanks
ReplyDeleteThis should have been titled hard truths
ReplyDeleteLife as it is
ReplyDeleteThanks Moxie for this,I have grabbed something from it precisely No 6, because it's what I'm going through now.
ReplyDeleteHow can anyone not love you? Especially the honesty in your writings and videos
ReplyDeleteWho said they don’t love her?
DeleteYes I’m 54 now and I have been married for 28 years and our love is new every morning so you’re right with that first point
ReplyDeleteThis last point is comforting. Thank you because sometimes we forget that we can overcome pain
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