Which Is More Important First Love Or Last Love?

Hi guys, we can all agree that it's not everyone that ends up with their first love. In fact, 95% of humans don't. Growing up, our parents fantasized so much about our first times: the first time we talked, walked, grew a tooth, sat down, etc. 

We get to a certain age where we know about the opposite sex, and then we start looking forward to our first date, first kiss, and the rest of them. Finally, someone comes along, and sweeps us off our feet, and we start thinking we'll end up with them - we start matching our names/surnames. 

I remember how much I love western life (blame my mum) that I actually wanted to marry a guy that his last name is English, and well, the universe has its own way of granting me my wants, so, whoops he came! He was everything I said my husband will be (I wrote them down in a book in high school, but those criteria changed anyway before I got married), and I've never wanted to date anyone just for the fun of it - I usually ask myself if I can marry them, and if I can't, then I can't date them.

I met this guy when I was done with high school, and about to get admitted into the university. He was TDH (tall, dark, and handsome) - even though I prefer average height men to tall men. Yes, that's my spec! I had gone to submit my credentials, and he was there in the queue with his friend - waiting for his turn. He kept stealing glances at me, and finally asked for my number when I was done and ready to leave. 

We started talking, and in the next couple of months, we became couples per se. I knew his family, and he knew mine. I could go to his family house and sleep for some days if there was an event, and he could come to mine too. Our parents accepted us like we were already married! But then, during his last days in school, we started to fall apart, and he wanted to be a pastor - which he did become! 

It was hard for me because I was already very attached to him, and kind of built my world around him; I mean someone I had sacrificed a lot for, and I didn't even think we were ever going to be separable, but it happened! He stopped communicating because I was a distraction on his pastoral journey, and of course, I wasn't raised to go after a guy who doesn't make efforts to keep me - so I kept to myself, and faced my school. I began to realize that I could live without this guy after all (maybe I was built not to be broken by anything).

I began to forget him, but his memories still lingered. Some months later, he started calling me again once in a while, and even offered to see me before I left school. He stopped calling my mum too who also made some sacrifices for him just because he was my bf (I’m mentioning this so you can understand how close I was to him. He was like family), and later, I came to terms with the fact that he didn't really owe me a thing; I did those things out of love, and I shouldn't regret it nor expect a payback. So, I healed and let go! 

Three years later, he came back, and started professing his love again, telling me he was sorry, and couldn't live without me. Gave me more reasons why he left. At this time, he was set to get married, and wanted to marry me. Well, too late I already moved on! 

He was my first love, and he was ready to do anything to get me back but I already learned how to live without him.

You see, sometimes we get wrapped up in love so great that we feel that once that person leaves, our whole world will crumble! H#ll no! Some even go ahead and commit su!c!de! You end your life, and then let them live with their new love? Darling, your last love is more important than your first love! However I know that first loves set the foundation of what it means to actually love someone.

Love yourself so much not to settle for less. You may have multiple dates after your breakup, and you find out you're not feeling them. That's ok! But be sure it's not because you're holding on to an ex that doesn't want you. Your first love is called that just because they are part of a series of "firsts". It's no big deal! There's always a first time of something in our lives. 

You should be more concerned about who your last love is. That person you can finally love without having to love someone else. If your first ends up being your last, awesome! Go with the flow, but there's nothing like "you're my first love, and I can't live without you". Your last love is the person you should cherish the most. It's that person you know is everything you want, and you're willing to spend the rest of your life with him, or her. 

People always complain about how others got away from them, so they say to their new dates "please don't leave me, they all left"... That's bull...! If they left, then they're not the one for you. The power they have over you, is your thoughts! Learn to stop thinking about them, and they'll lose their importance in your life.

I believe when relationships are over, exes should stay in the past especially when we're getting into a new relationship. If they wanted you, they'd have made efforts to resolve the issues, and get back. 




PLEASE REMEMBER: If your first love ends up being your last love, it's great, but don't force relationships! Xo, Moxie

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