17 Thing Every Man Needs To Know Before Getting Married

Hi guys, I strongly believe this will help every man who's planning to get married someday, and even the ones that are already married. Someone shared these points with me, and I thought to edit, add my own points, and share with you guys because he made so much sense.


I've always said that parents - especially mothers prepare their daughters for marriage - to be a perfect wife for a man, and little to no efforts are made into grooming the boy child to be a good man or a good husband to their wives. Sometimes, this leads to a man not knowing how to treat a woman, or they believe they're meant to do whatever they want. Other times, they adopt the behaviors of parents - you know like how their dad treated or treats their mum or how they've seen other men treat their women.


I hope these help you to know or understand what marriage is about. So read, and share your thoughts with me..


1. Before marriage, understand your purpose in life - where you're headed, and why you need a woman in your life.


2. Understand that the woman that has agreed to marry you has already made some sacrifices to be with you - like leaving her culture to adopt yours.


3. Love her unconditionally, and understand that she's building your home with you.


4. Make her have a sense of belonging in your family, by caring and protecting her. Your family will treat her how you treat her.


5. Women out of fear do lots of hidden investments in their name because they feel they may be thrown out of the house if you are no longer there. Be sure to have this conversation with her before and after marriage. By your unquestionable commitments to her, you could avoid the issue of secrecy in your marriage.


6. By all means necessary, avoid external influence in your marriage. As a man, you are not expected to turn your back on your parents and siblings because you're married; but as a mature and wise man, you have to have a limit of your family's interference in your marriage.


7. Never expect to see your mum in your wife. Your mum may not be exactly the same way she is today when your dad married her but it took patience, forbearance, understanding, wisdom, knowledge, and correction for your dad to build her into the woman she is today.

Marriage simply doesn’t have a particular formula, therefore what worked for your parents in theirs, may not work for you and your wife in yours.

8. Understand that women are blessed with verbal powers just as a man is blessed with physical strength. Therefore, when she is upset, never take all the things she say to heart. As difficult as it may be to withstand all of the very many venoms pouring from her mouth, a wise man listens to all of those venomous words, not to attack, but rather learn areas he may not have been doing well in the home because if you listen attentively, you'll know she's expressing her concerns or things she's not okay with.


Make amends where necessary. If reference has to be made about what she said, let that be done on days you're both happy. If she respects you, she'll listen to you, explain better, and apologize too.

If you practice this with a sensible woman, you'll always have a happy home.

9. You may have a higher IQ than your wife but that doesn’t make her less of a person. Women love attention, so even if her advise makes no sense to you, give her listening ears, and for any of her advise you hold superior than yours, praise her and let her know how blessed you are to have married her. It will make her feel greatly valued and she would gladly contribute any other time.

However, for any of her advise that doesn’t sound good, still respect her opinion even if you are going to implement yours.


10. Remember, no human being is perfect. Let your corrections to her be in love when she makes mistakes. Don’t make a public show of her mistakes but rather in private, correct her.


11. When you have a misunderstanding with your wife, for the sake of that unconditional love you have for her, forgive her and keep the family united.


Most importantly, know that it is childish not to eat her food, or not to sleep at home.


12. Praise your wife, support her, protect her, and never give room for extramarital affairs or conversations with other women that will lead to that, in your marriage.


Understand that cheating always starts with constant communication!


13. Please provide for your family.


14. Understand that the bond children have with their mothers started from the womb and it will take hatred from the mother on her child to break that bond, so you'll need to make efforts to bond with your children.

Have time for your home no matter your tight schedules. Take them out often, and even go on picnics. Give them listening ears when they desire it. With that, you have won their hearts and they'll be comfortable with telling you anything.

Ps, never let them have their way all the time. Discipline is needed from time to time. Meanwhile, when a child approaches adolescent age, that is the time to draw the child more close and show more love because when they start approaching puberty, they can be misled if you don't guide them well.

15. Pray with your family.


16. Never stop going on dates with your wife, and looking good for each other. When kids come, caring for them may be overwhelming, and you may start to lose the bond you share with your wife. Don't let that happen.




So guys, I hope y'all find these helpful. If you practice all these with a sensible woman, you'll always have a happy marriage, and you'll realize that one woman is enough for you!

Let me know what you think in the comment box 😘

Cc – Nweke Ebuka, & Moxie
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