10 IMPORTANT QUALITIES YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE WHEN LOOKING FOR A LIFE PARTNER
I know you’ve read and heard a lot of times that you should marry your friend, but I want to tell you it’s not enough! I mean you have so many friends, so are you going to marry all of them?
If you start off as friends with someone, you’ll be able to tell if they’re good or not—from their attitude.
To avoid this, find someone reliable!
4. ROMANCE
You don’t need to be a rich man or a rich woman to be romantic. It’s the little things that matter, and it’s these little things that’ll keep rekindling the flame of love in your marriage - even if it’s a handwritten note. I think a grateful/an appreciative person will be more romantic than an entitled person.
5. ATTRACTION
No matter how much we shy away from this topic, it’s important we address it because it’s why most couples cheat! S*x is a very important part of marriage, and it’s not just for procreation purposes. Please be with someone you genuinely find attractive unless s*x and attraction don’t matter to you! Don’t just marry someone because you feel they’ll make a good husband to you, and a good father to your kids, or a good wife to you, and a good mother to your kids, then you turn around to cheat to satisfy yourself because they’re not enough in bed!
Sometimes, attraction is actually what draws people together, but it’s also not enough to sustain the marriage or relationship, and that’s why we have all these other qualities.
When you think your partner is going out of shape, let them know instead of just lusting after other people! They have the same body parts just like your partner does! Did I sound personal with this? *rolls eyes*
6. FAMILY
I’ll mostly be talking to the ladies on this one. I’m a strong believer of “when you get married to a man, you are married to his entire family”. If his family doesn’t like you, please don’t go into the marriage unless the man you getting married to is independent, strongly believes you’re the right and only one for him, and doesn’t care what people think or say. If the reverse is the case, then prepare to be miserable if they live with him or when they visit to stay for a while.
It’s best to get married into a family that likes you—where you relate with his parents and siblings well!
7. KINDNESS, RESPECT, AND UNDERSTANDING
So gift-giving is one of my love languages, but guess what? I’ll rather be with a man who treats me like someone he values so much than be with a man who gives me everything, and treats me like I don’t matter. But can I get both? Yes
Look for someone who is kind, not just to you but also to people around them, who treats everyone with respect too! And most importantly, has self-respect. A person like this will definitely respect you publicly and privately.
8. EFFORT
Anyone who is trying their best to make something out of their life, is someone who wouldn’t be a liability to you tomorrow!
9. FIND SOMEONE WHO LIKES YOU/SOMEONE YOU LIKE!
You have to like someone first before you love them because when y’all fighting, no one is talking about love at that moment. Your making up largely depends on how much you like each other!
Guys, personally, these are the 10 most important things you need to look out for when choosing a partner, and it’s best to know if your partner has these qualities by being friends with them first.
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Have you seen situations where people were so close like they can’t do without each other, got married, and then divorced or separated later? Or even got into a relationship, and it didn’t last?
People say “oh there’s no formula to this thing” “if it’ll crash, it’ll crash”. You may be right if you have this mindset but you and who you marry definitely have a part to play towards the success of your marriage or relationship!
1. THE FIRST THING you should look out if you’re ready to get married, is to find someone who is GENUINELY GOOD!
I’m no longer a fan of people who date for so many years before getting married! I’ve been there before, and apart from the lessons you learn, there’s also time you spent that you’ll never get back. Now I feel like people should date when they already know that they’ll be ready to get married in a year, two, or three at most!
People say “oh there’s no formula to this thing” “if it’ll crash, it’ll crash”. You may be right if you have this mindset but you and who you marry definitely have a part to play towards the success of your marriage or relationship!
1. THE FIRST THING you should look out if you’re ready to get married, is to find someone who is GENUINELY GOOD!
I’m no longer a fan of people who date for so many years before getting married! I’ve been there before, and apart from the lessons you learn, there’s also time you spent that you’ll never get back. Now I feel like people should date when they already know that they’ll be ready to get married in a year, two, or three at most!
If you start off as friends with someone, you’ll be able to tell if they’re good or not—from their attitude.
Before you come with oh nobody is perfect, I know that, sweetheart! But a good person is a person who is willing to accept that they’re not perfect, take corrections, and try to be a better person—not just for you, but for themselves too! A good person wouldn’t make you go through certain things! Good people have conscience, and they understand that certain actions they take can hurt you, hence they’ll avoid doing such!
2. SENSE OF HUMOR
You can’t always be serious all the time. I’m not even talking about looking for a comedian or a comedienne, but someone who knows how to have a good laugh/knows how to make a joke is a great choice! There’ll be times when you’ll go through difficult times in your life, and you’ll probably fall on someone who’s going to make it easy! Why not your partner?
3. RELIABILITY
To be honest, there’s nothing as sweet as knowing you can hold someone by their words. If they say they’ll do something, you know they will, and if they say they won’t, you know they won’t! I feel like this is one of the reasons couples fall apart - not keeping to their words.
I take words seriously, and almost everyone does even if they don’t say it. If you keep telling someone you’ll do something or that you won’t do something, then you turn around to do the opposite, it’ll make the other person to start nursing a grudge, and when this becomes a habit, it probably gets to the point where they can’t handle it again, and it turns into a serious fight or even breakup!
2. SENSE OF HUMOR
You can’t always be serious all the time. I’m not even talking about looking for a comedian or a comedienne, but someone who knows how to have a good laugh/knows how to make a joke is a great choice! There’ll be times when you’ll go through difficult times in your life, and you’ll probably fall on someone who’s going to make it easy! Why not your partner?
3. RELIABILITY
To be honest, there’s nothing as sweet as knowing you can hold someone by their words. If they say they’ll do something, you know they will, and if they say they won’t, you know they won’t! I feel like this is one of the reasons couples fall apart - not keeping to their words.
I take words seriously, and almost everyone does even if they don’t say it. If you keep telling someone you’ll do something or that you won’t do something, then you turn around to do the opposite, it’ll make the other person to start nursing a grudge, and when this becomes a habit, it probably gets to the point where they can’t handle it again, and it turns into a serious fight or even breakup!
To avoid this, find someone reliable!
4. ROMANCE
You don’t need to be a rich man or a rich woman to be romantic. It’s the little things that matter, and it’s these little things that’ll keep rekindling the flame of love in your marriage - even if it’s a handwritten note. I think a grateful/an appreciative person will be more romantic than an entitled person.
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5. ATTRACTION
No matter how much we shy away from this topic, it’s important we address it because it’s why most couples cheat! S*x is a very important part of marriage, and it’s not just for procreation purposes. Please be with someone you genuinely find attractive unless s*x and attraction don’t matter to you! Don’t just marry someone because you feel they’ll make a good husband to you, and a good father to your kids, or a good wife to you, and a good mother to your kids, then you turn around to cheat to satisfy yourself because they’re not enough in bed!
Sometimes, attraction is actually what draws people together, but it’s also not enough to sustain the marriage or relationship, and that’s why we have all these other qualities.
When you think your partner is going out of shape, let them know instead of just lusting after other people! They have the same body parts just like your partner does! Did I sound personal with this? *rolls eyes*
6. FAMILY
I’ll mostly be talking to the ladies on this one. I’m a strong believer of “when you get married to a man, you are married to his entire family”. If his family doesn’t like you, please don’t go into the marriage unless the man you getting married to is independent, strongly believes you’re the right and only one for him, and doesn’t care what people think or say. If the reverse is the case, then prepare to be miserable if they live with him or when they visit to stay for a while.
It’s best to get married into a family that likes you—where you relate with his parents and siblings well!
7. KINDNESS, RESPECT, AND UNDERSTANDING
So gift-giving is one of my love languages, but guess what? I’ll rather be with a man who treats me like someone he values so much than be with a man who gives me everything, and treats me like I don’t matter. But can I get both? Yes
Look for someone who is kind, not just to you but also to people around them, who treats everyone with respect too! And most importantly, has self-respect. A person like this will definitely respect you publicly and privately.
8. EFFORT
Anyone who is trying their best to make something out of their life, is someone who wouldn’t be a liability to you tomorrow!
9. FIND SOMEONE WHO LIKES YOU/SOMEONE YOU LIKE!
You have to like someone first before you love them because when y’all fighting, no one is talking about love at that moment. Your making up largely depends on how much you like each other!
Sometimes “I really like you” is stronger than “I really love you”.
Please find someone you don't believe will change after marriage, or someone you won't want to change after marriage. People don't change after marriage! They actually get comfortable, and if they were pretending, their true character comes out.
10. FORGIVENESS
Be sure you’re looking for someone who can truly forgive you when you hurt them. People who hold grudges are the ones who end up killing their partners over issues.
One thing I can also tell you is that people who forgive easily may also decide not to speak to you again even after they've forgiven you - especially if the issue is a breach of trust.
10. FORGIVENESS
Be sure you’re looking for someone who can truly forgive you when you hurt them. People who hold grudges are the ones who end up killing their partners over issues.
One thing I can also tell you is that people who forgive easily may also decide not to speak to you again even after they've forgiven you - especially if the issue is a breach of trust.
Guys, personally, these are the 10 most important things you need to look out for when choosing a partner, and it’s best to know if your partner has these qualities by being friends with them first.
Did you enjoy reading this? Are they helpful tips? 😘
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DeleteThe worst is marrying into a family that doesn't like you
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ReplyDeleteThey're rare, but you can find
DeleteMoxie see eh good responsible and loyal women are hard to come by these days
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DeleteMoxie spitting facts. I did this i picked a good man over all the men that were trying to win me. I can't shout
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DeleteI love this post because I believe it'll make a lot of people check their character
ReplyDeleteI hope so
DeleteSmart and perfect! People shouldn't these things I'm tired of seeing divorce everyday on blogs
ReplyDeleteThis is such an eye opener. I felt like my mother was advising me. You are a wise woman and your children will be lucky to have you
ReplyDeleteThank you so much
DeleteAll these ones shouting good people are hard to find, are you a good person? Lolz
ReplyDeletePlease help me ask o. If u are a good person good people will come around u
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ReplyDeleteThe "10 reasons" are just perfect and the article skillfully written. I would say this time, you wrote both from experience, having started your own journey, and of course, wisdom.
ReplyDeleteOne might not be lucky to find all in one package even as the finder might be short of some qualities mentioned above. Look out for the unavoidable ones and with the EFFORT to improve,
the not-so- good qualities could be worked on or even the entirely missing ones discovered.
Thanks Moxie for serving it hot. Haha
You right, and thank you!!!
DeleteApt; special heed to number one
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for reading
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