DOES A MAN NEED TO CHASE ME FOR LONG FOR OUR RELATIONSHIP TO LAST?
The short answer is NO. I’ll explain why!
I’m quite addicted to reading, and almost every relationship article I’ve read has said something about men loving to chase a woman in order to value her. In all sincerity, I do not agree nor believe that how long a man chases you determines if he’s going to value you!
Your value is not in the chasing. Your value is in you! Your character, your uniqueness, your charisma. Imagine walking into a store, and seeing a beautiful container—let’s say it contains a cream you believe will make your skin to glow. You checked the price, and you couldn’t afford it. Then you begin to save up for it; it may probably take you weeks or months for your money to be complete, and then you finally get it. You got home, opened it, and boom the smell stinks! You’ll be frustrated, and would definitely ask for a refund, right?
This is what it’s like when it comes to chasing or when it comes to a man liking a woman or even a woman liking a man. It won’t always end up in your looks, how long it took before you agreed to date them. It’ll always be in what you have to offer, how different you are from other people they’ve met, what’s special about you!
I'll even say I prefer the chase happening when a relationship has been established because then you already know the value of your partner, and you know that she'll leave if you're not ready to act right.
Ps, I’m old fashioned, and I’m a fan of a man going after a woman, but not a fan of playing hard to get! I’ll only do that if I don’t like you(I mean if I was single). Society has led us to believe that when you don’t give a man a tough time before saying yes, he’ll take you as a cheap woman! Do you know that even when you give him a tough time, and his interest is in just having sex with you, it doesn’t matter if you play hard to get for one year before saying yes. He’s going to have sex, and still leave! Even if he keeps coming back, you’re seeing he’s coming back for the sex with no discussions about commitment.
People say there are no rules to relationships—that I agree with. Just find someone who has a common interest as you, and get it going! I feel like if I’m a man, I won’t even waste time in chasing a woman. I’m not going to judge your character by you playing hard to get! I believe if I want a woman, then I want her for life therefore if you play hard to get for me, I just think that you’re not interested in me, so why will I waste my time? A person can only know your worth when they’ve spent time with you or when they’ve had conversations with you. You can’t show them that by ignoring them and replying after two years.
When I say playing hard to get, I mean liking someone but ignoring their messages because you want to give off the vibe that you’re busy. That doesn’t make sense to me. I mean as long as the person is not engaging you in small talks(I hate that, by the way), if you’re busy, you can just politely let them know that you’re busy, and will get back to them.
Also, I believe in establishing a conversation with someone first before deciding on whether you should share your personal info or not.
Society has made chasing so important that men especially the ones with low self-esteem take pride in how many women they can get. Sometimes they just have friends who bully them for being faithful to one woman! This is the reason why I believe that if you want to be useful in life, then you need to evaluate your friends. A man’s pride should be in being able to keep his woman’s attention on him despite all the men promising her heaven and earth. There’s nothing to be proud of if your woman can’t comfortably brag about you in public.
Men need to understand that it’s easy to get a woman so there’s no pride in doing easy things. If she’s not giving you the slightest attention, then she doesn’t like you. That’s when you now decide to buy things for her to like you but then you know she likes all the things you buying, and not you as a person? You should buy things for your woman who already genuinely accepted you!
In summary, if a man believes his worth comes from how many women he can get, then he has a very low self-esteem, and should remain single and gather as much women as he likes.
The length of chase does not determine nor decide the length of the relationship. Your character does!
It's many wrong things society has taught us that we need to unlearn.
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I’m quite addicted to reading, and almost every relationship article I’ve read has said something about men loving to chase a woman in order to value her. In all sincerity, I do not agree nor believe that how long a man chases you determines if he’s going to value you!
Your value is not in the chasing. Your value is in you! Your character, your uniqueness, your charisma. Imagine walking into a store, and seeing a beautiful container—let’s say it contains a cream you believe will make your skin to glow. You checked the price, and you couldn’t afford it. Then you begin to save up for it; it may probably take you weeks or months for your money to be complete, and then you finally get it. You got home, opened it, and boom the smell stinks! You’ll be frustrated, and would definitely ask for a refund, right?
This is what it’s like when it comes to chasing or when it comes to a man liking a woman or even a woman liking a man. It won’t always end up in your looks, how long it took before you agreed to date them. It’ll always be in what you have to offer, how different you are from other people they’ve met, what’s special about you!
I'll even say I prefer the chase happening when a relationship has been established because then you already know the value of your partner, and you know that she'll leave if you're not ready to act right.
Ps, I’m old fashioned, and I’m a fan of a man going after a woman, but not a fan of playing hard to get! I’ll only do that if I don’t like you(I mean if I was single). Society has led us to believe that when you don’t give a man a tough time before saying yes, he’ll take you as a cheap woman! Do you know that even when you give him a tough time, and his interest is in just having sex with you, it doesn’t matter if you play hard to get for one year before saying yes. He’s going to have sex, and still leave! Even if he keeps coming back, you’re seeing he’s coming back for the sex with no discussions about commitment.
People say there are no rules to relationships—that I agree with. Just find someone who has a common interest as you, and get it going! I feel like if I’m a man, I won’t even waste time in chasing a woman. I’m not going to judge your character by you playing hard to get! I believe if I want a woman, then I want her for life therefore if you play hard to get for me, I just think that you’re not interested in me, so why will I waste my time? A person can only know your worth when they’ve spent time with you or when they’ve had conversations with you. You can’t show them that by ignoring them and replying after two years.
When I say playing hard to get, I mean liking someone but ignoring their messages because you want to give off the vibe that you’re busy. That doesn’t make sense to me. I mean as long as the person is not engaging you in small talks(I hate that, by the way), if you’re busy, you can just politely let them know that you’re busy, and will get back to them.
Also, I believe in establishing a conversation with someone first before deciding on whether you should share your personal info or not.
Society has made chasing so important that men especially the ones with low self-esteem take pride in how many women they can get. Sometimes they just have friends who bully them for being faithful to one woman! This is the reason why I believe that if you want to be useful in life, then you need to evaluate your friends. A man’s pride should be in being able to keep his woman’s attention on him despite all the men promising her heaven and earth. There’s nothing to be proud of if your woman can’t comfortably brag about you in public.
Men need to understand that it’s easy to get a woman so there’s no pride in doing easy things. If she’s not giving you the slightest attention, then she doesn’t like you. That’s when you now decide to buy things for her to like you but then you know she likes all the things you buying, and not you as a person? You should buy things for your woman who already genuinely accepted you!
In summary, if a man believes his worth comes from how many women he can get, then he has a very low self-esteem, and should remain single and gather as much women as he likes.
The length of chase does not determine nor decide the length of the relationship. Your character does!
It's many wrong things society has taught us that we need to unlearn.
Please kindly share this post on Have you read 15 BEST/SWEETEST COMBO FOODS I'VE TRIED
Moxie thanks for this because sometimes u even see that serious minded men will leave u alone when you are playing hard to get
ReplyDeleteYou're welcome
DeleteHello can you marry me? I have no idea that a woman can be so pretty and smart at the same time. Where are you from? I'm Mike and I'll like to know how I can personally contact you
ReplyDeleteDidn't you see where she said she's not single and you are asking to marry her. Almost all her posts she mentions her man. Stop chasing her with scopes Mr Mike
DeleteThank you
DeleteSo so true
ReplyDeleteI wish so many girls will read this
ReplyDeleteYou can share it. Thank you
DeleteYes more people need to know this. Men stop bragging about how many women you can get. There isno honour in that
ReplyDeleteThere's none at all
DeleteIt's your type that should be role model to women because you spill facts. Nothing is supposed to be chased in life
ReplyDeleteThank you, Somto
DeleteThis is true because someone can chase you for long with the wrong intentions
ReplyDeleteI can't believe a woman finally said this. This is the definition of having an open mind
ReplyDeleteHey I like how you're objective! Just thought you should know that
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteSome men chasing you and finally getting you will show you pepperish pepper
ReplyDeleteLol, really?
DeleteI thank you Moxie.
ReplyDeleteLol, you're welcome
DeleteI love this
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteYour write up is nice ,but for some reason I just think it follows the same old redric of how a man is responsible for everything in a relationship... for instance the paragraph where u said a man is supposed to be able to keep his woman's attention to himself, that's just like saying it's a man's fault if his woman decides to give other men chasing her attention rather than focus on him...for that I say there is no way I can keep someone else's attention on u if they want to focus on something else or when they find something else more interesting...and as for the part where u said only men with low self esteem derive pride in how many women they have been with I'd say that's wrong ...we all have what's important to us and a lot of men would rather keep scores than commit to one woman ... because what's the point of commiting to one person when u can have a variety (not saying that's right though) but it just sounds corny like those "real man" quotes that is been circulated around to shame men into doing things they don't like or find satisfaction in
ReplyDeleteYour opinion. I already said that getting a woman is easy so there's no pride doing what's easy. Take pride in doing the one that's difficult which is keeping your woman's attention on you. But again we have responsible people and irresponsible people so everyone knows where they fall in. I didn't ask a man to not chase many women. If you read it all, you'll see I said if that's what you want to do, then remain single and do it. It's silly to demand a woman's commitment while you frolick with other women. Cheating is very easy, and there is no pride in that.
DeleteAnonymous did u read the entire thing before rushing to comment? In everything she wrote your concern is men and cheating. Is it guilty conscience? Moxie I don't think this person read everything you wrote o. He just dey off point and sounding like a cheating man na why e no comment with em name. He is just off topic
DeleteLike I said I totally agree with most of your point but for the part where u said man is responsible for keeping his woman's attention to himself and where u say men who don't want to commit to a woman have low self esteem...it's just off to me ... because I know some men prefer a life of solitude and while some prefer to share their life with someone ...but neither should be judged nor shamed for their decision...as long as it's something that makes each individual happy....
DeleteOh no, you got it all wrong. I never said a man is responsible for keeping his woman's attention solely on him. In fact you can be the best man to her, and she'll still have eyes for another man. That's why I mentioned responsible people and irresponsible people. I said your pride should be in being able to keep your woman's attention on you, not in how many women you can gather while dating or married to her because cheating is so easy, and there's no pride in easy things. Also, I never said men who can't commit to a woman have low self-esteem. I said men who are already in relationships or marriages but still chasing other women have low self-esteem because they believe their ego is boosted or their worth is measured by how many women they can get. I don't have a problem with a man choosing to mess around with multiple women. Even though it's wrong, but it's his choice as long as he's single! Because you can't expect your partner to be committed to you while you mess around. And again, relationships and marriages ain't for everyone. If you're happy being single, then so be it. I'd never shame anyone for that, but don't convince others that they're stupid for deciding to be in relationships or to get married.
DeleteWell said, girl. Intelligence is attractive
DeleteMakes so much sense. You can let a woman know your intentions but u don't have to chase her. Men who believe in chasing cheat the most because they think the woman is playing hard to get, so finally getting her gives them thrills and they move to another woman
ReplyDeleteThank you, Steven
DeleteThanks
ReplyDeleteWhen next are you giving us new content? I'm becoming addicted to this blog
ReplyDeleteI'll think of something soon. Thank you
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