15 Things To Know When Dealing With An Overthinker
I’m an overthinker. It sucks, right? Even though my beau has made me see reasons why I shouldn't always say that because it enables me to keep being one.
Well one thing you need to know about over-thinkers, is that they didn’t just wake up and decide to be one, neither were they created like that.
Overthinkers are mostly people who have genuinely trusted and loved others who ended up disappointing them. When you’ve had experience(s) like these, it’s either you let it change you to a cold hearted human who don’t feel nothing, or you put up a defense mechanism which is assuming the worst when things happen, and then prepare yourself for it so it doesn’t come as a shock to you.
If you have an over-thinker in your life, you could hate them, but believe me when I say they’re very clever people, and sometimes their thoughts are useful to them.
Here are some facts you don’t know about over-thinkers
1. THEY ARE EMPATHS, AND DON’T ENJOY HURTING OTHERS
If you get into a fight with an overthinker, chances are they’ll explain and explain themselves till you’re able to understand them.
2. THEY ARE ALWAYS ON THE EDGE
It’s like they live their life in such a way that they don’t want to be taken unawares. This could be bad but it’s their own way of protecting themselves from hurt.
3. THEY ARE OVERLY-EMOTIONAL
I mean it’s so obvious! They think of all the possible reasons why things happen—both the good and the bad. An overthinker assumes the worst first when things happen to them, before being logical! I understand how this trait can be bad.
4. THEY PREFER TO BE ALONE
The fact that these people are empaths, and would love you like no one ever has, they keep this energy to themselves because every little thing gets to them, so they’ll rather be alone than experience that hurt or pain.
5. THEY ARE ALMOST PERFECTIONISTS
An overthinker usually has high standards, and may never settle for less. Understand that their standards could be different from yours, but an overthinker would usually walk away from anything that falls short of their expectations.
Also, once an overthinker makes a mistake, they’re restless, and will always think of ways to fix it before letting go.
6. THEY RARELY LET THINGS GO UNTIL THEY HAVE FOUND A SOLUTION
It’s like when a bad thing happens, they try to find a reason why it did, and also find ways to make sure that it doesn’t happen again.
7. RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM AREN’T THE EASIEST
When an overthinker loves you, they’ll barely demand anything from you, but they’ll always take your actions/words seriously and will find their own meanings/explanations if your own explanations don’t add up!
8. THEY ARE HARD ON THEMSELVES
An overthinker constantly works on improving themselves, and being a better person. This means that most of time, they’re highly self-critical.
9. THEY WORRY ABOUT ALMOST EVERYTHING
The fact that they are independent people, they’ll most likely live their life like they’re the only ones catering for the bills even when you’re in a relationship with them. They want everyone around them to be okay—finance wise, health wise, etc!
10. MOST OF THE OVER-THINKERS YOU WILL MEET ARE INTROVERTS
Well, like I said in number 4, they prefer to be alone. An overthinker rarely socializes!
11. THEY HAVE THE PUREST OF HEARTS
Listen, if you ever have an overthinker who loves you—be it as a friend, a sibling, or significant other, you’ve gained a loyal person for life! As long as they can trust you, an overthinker will do almost anything for you!
12. MOST PEOPLE COME TO THEM FOR ADVICE
Well because of the fact that they're empaths, they could attract both broken, and non-broken people who come to them for advice. An overthinker has the ability to give great advice because they think of both the good and the bad. They’re best in giving advice to others but not to themselves. How weird, huh!
13. YOU NEED TO BE A GOOD COMMUNICATOR TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE
Sounds like a lot of work? Well it’s why overthinkers are special and different kind of people, and it’s also why an overthinker will not just settle for anyone for the sake of being in a relationship! They also look out for special and different kind of people.
14. THEY SEE THE GOOD IN EVERYONE UNTIL YOU GIVE THEM A REASON NOT TO
As an empath, they believe that there are so many good people in the world. An overthinker will usually give you many chances before walking away. If you have 99 bad, and 1 good, they’ll keep holding on to the good till they can’t anymore.
Another thing you need to know is that overthinkers read people well! They’ll be able to tell when a person isn’t genuine, and they’ll definitely stay away from you!
15. THEY HATE SMALL TALKS
Oh, they love challenging conversations, and they’ll easily fall for a smart person!
So many times people believe overthinkers were born that way, but I personally believe situations/experiences shaped them that way. It doesn’t mean that they haven’t healed from whatever pain they must have felt! It simply means they view the world differently from others.
Have you ever had an overthinker in your life? Please share your experience 😘
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Well one thing you need to know about over-thinkers, is that they didn’t just wake up and decide to be one, neither were they created like that.
Overthinkers are mostly people who have genuinely trusted and loved others who ended up disappointing them. When you’ve had experience(s) like these, it’s either you let it change you to a cold hearted human who don’t feel nothing, or you put up a defense mechanism which is assuming the worst when things happen, and then prepare yourself for it so it doesn’t come as a shock to you.
If you have an over-thinker in your life, you could hate them, but believe me when I say they’re very clever people, and sometimes their thoughts are useful to them.
Here are some facts you don’t know about over-thinkers
1. THEY ARE EMPATHS, AND DON’T ENJOY HURTING OTHERS
If you get into a fight with an overthinker, chances are they’ll explain and explain themselves till you’re able to understand them.
2. THEY ARE ALWAYS ON THE EDGE
It’s like they live their life in such a way that they don’t want to be taken unawares. This could be bad but it’s their own way of protecting themselves from hurt.
3. THEY ARE OVERLY-EMOTIONAL
I mean it’s so obvious! They think of all the possible reasons why things happen—both the good and the bad. An overthinker assumes the worst first when things happen to them, before being logical! I understand how this trait can be bad.
4. THEY PREFER TO BE ALONE
The fact that these people are empaths, and would love you like no one ever has, they keep this energy to themselves because every little thing gets to them, so they’ll rather be alone than experience that hurt or pain.
5. THEY ARE ALMOST PERFECTIONISTS
An overthinker usually has high standards, and may never settle for less. Understand that their standards could be different from yours, but an overthinker would usually walk away from anything that falls short of their expectations.
Also, once an overthinker makes a mistake, they’re restless, and will always think of ways to fix it before letting go.
6. THEY RARELY LET THINGS GO UNTIL THEY HAVE FOUND A SOLUTION
It’s like when a bad thing happens, they try to find a reason why it did, and also find ways to make sure that it doesn’t happen again.
7. RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM AREN’T THE EASIEST
When an overthinker loves you, they’ll barely demand anything from you, but they’ll always take your actions/words seriously and will find their own meanings/explanations if your own explanations don’t add up!
8. THEY ARE HARD ON THEMSELVES
An overthinker constantly works on improving themselves, and being a better person. This means that most of time, they’re highly self-critical.
9. THEY WORRY ABOUT ALMOST EVERYTHING
The fact that they are independent people, they’ll most likely live their life like they’re the only ones catering for the bills even when you’re in a relationship with them. They want everyone around them to be okay—finance wise, health wise, etc!
10. MOST OF THE OVER-THINKERS YOU WILL MEET ARE INTROVERTS
Well, like I said in number 4, they prefer to be alone. An overthinker rarely socializes!
11. THEY HAVE THE PUREST OF HEARTS
Listen, if you ever have an overthinker who loves you—be it as a friend, a sibling, or significant other, you’ve gained a loyal person for life! As long as they can trust you, an overthinker will do almost anything for you!
12. MOST PEOPLE COME TO THEM FOR ADVICE
Well because of the fact that they're empaths, they could attract both broken, and non-broken people who come to them for advice. An overthinker has the ability to give great advice because they think of both the good and the bad. They’re best in giving advice to others but not to themselves. How weird, huh!
13. YOU NEED TO BE A GOOD COMMUNICATOR TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE
Sounds like a lot of work? Well it’s why overthinkers are special and different kind of people, and it’s also why an overthinker will not just settle for anyone for the sake of being in a relationship! They also look out for special and different kind of people.
14. THEY SEE THE GOOD IN EVERYONE UNTIL YOU GIVE THEM A REASON NOT TO
As an empath, they believe that there are so many good people in the world. An overthinker will usually give you many chances before walking away. If you have 99 bad, and 1 good, they’ll keep holding on to the good till they can’t anymore.
Another thing you need to know is that overthinkers read people well! They’ll be able to tell when a person isn’t genuine, and they’ll definitely stay away from you!
15. THEY HATE SMALL TALKS
Oh, they love challenging conversations, and they’ll easily fall for a smart person!
So many times people believe overthinkers were born that way, but I personally believe situations/experiences shaped them that way. It doesn’t mean that they haven’t healed from whatever pain they must have felt! It simply means they view the world differently from others.
Have you ever had an overthinker in your life? Please share your experience 😘
Sharing is caring
I learnt this the hard way. I lost a friend who was an overthinker and I have not been able to replace her. I wish God will touch her mind so we can be friends again
ReplyDeleteAww! Sorry about that
DeleteThis is very true. I'm an overthinker as well and I know I can't hurt no one. Moxie I really want to stop because it doesn't do me good please how do I stop?
ReplyDeleteTry to do more of positive thinking, and grow a tough skin. That's how I know you can stop
DeleteMoxie it's these gifs you use for your illustration for me
ReplyDeleteHaha. Thank you
DeleteI have an overthinker as an employee and she's the smartest of all my workers.
ReplyDeleteNice
DeleteMoxie I think we were born that way but bad experiences may heighten it hence the defence mechanism kicking. But this writeup is absolutely correct
ReplyDeleteYou could be right
DeleteThank you for shading more light on this because so many people don't get it
ReplyDeleteYou welcome, and thank you for reading
DeleteYou forgot to add that many overthinkers are strong people because even with all the thoughts, they still dust themselves up and move on with their life
ReplyDeleteYou are right! Good point
DeleteI like that you were logical with this you know. Letting us know how some of these traits can be bad. No I haven't had an overthinker in my life before but if I come across one, I'll know how to relate with them
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteI was just smiling while reading this. It just completely defines me.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you could relate
DeleteI'll share this with my boyfriend. Thank you
ReplyDeleteYou welcome
DeleteIt takes an overthinker or a good relationship with one to understand your points are quite insightful. Of course this could only be scripted this way out of experience.
ReplyDeleteThanks Moxie. Quite helpful.
Yes, because Google will tell you stories of how overthinking leads to depression, but they forgot to add that being an overthinker with zero confidence is what can make you wallow in self-pity; hence depression. You welcome, Maxie, and thank you!
DeleteYou have said everything about me I know I am a good person but people say I am too forward about everything I don't know how to help my self from all dis I am self motivated. I believe without you life goes no but until you give me a reason or something happened...
ReplyDeleteOh yeah, don't let anyone make you feel bad. I'll share steps on you can work on it
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