Moxie's Diaries!

It’s been over a year since I actively wrote something; I mean I do share my random thoughts on my notes app every now and then, but I haven’t really sat down to write, proofread, edit, and post. The question is why ?!  There’s no genuine reason because if I hold myself accountable, then all I’ll have are excuses! There’s no real reason why I haven’t been writing for so long!

Let me start by saying that I'm not a love nor a relationship expert; but I've found these to be true. Growing up, I never questioned what love is because I had a lot of it from my family; and I'll simply tell anyone that love is genuine care, and selflessness.  I once read a Christian book that said that Agape Love  is the purest form of love, but I'm not defining what love is, or is not, today! Below, I'll be sharing some psychological facts about love especially for romantic relationships. Photo Credit : Unsplash

I was listening to gospel music today, and I started thinking about certain things; and one of them was fear. I asked myself what I'm afraid of, and my answer was weakness . I don't like to show weakness, nor vulnerability; and if you ever experience that part of me, then I really love, and trust you a lot. I generally don't like pity nor sympathy from anyone. If you ever going to do something for me, then let it be out of love, not out of sympathy, or pity.  Photo credit : Times Of India When I lost my parents, I barely told anyone; and even when I posted about it, I ended it with, "please don't tell me sorry". I lost the human that loved me the most - my mum; and I may never be able to get her love, and understanding from any human again. De@th is a part of life so I don't worry so much about that. However, I decided to share this - maybe it will encourage someone - there is nothing you lose that you can't get back except a loved one!

I’ll be sharing this based on my personal experience; but let me explain what it means to live a private life. It means not sharing every personal detail about your life publicly. However, privacy is not the same as secrecy because people often confuse the two. Also, living a private life doesn't mean that you shouldn’t ask for help when you're in dire need of it. As an introvert, I keep most personal stuff to myself; but I used to trust easily until I learned the hard way. I learned that not everyone means well for you; and the scary part of it is that you may never know.  Photo Credit: Deposit photos

Hi, thank you for stopping by. So few days ago, I did some thinking, and reflected on my behavior. I realized that it's been a couple of things I used to do that I don't do anymore. To me, it was growth, and I was truly proud of it, and thought to share because you may find them helpful! Here are 10 things I’ve stopped doing:

Sometimes we don’t even know we tell ourselves these lies. They’re often disguised as beliefs which I’ve come to understand that not all beliefs are facts; and these ones I’m about to share with you are just typical examples of lies we often tell ourselves!.. sorry. Image credit : Fast forward accounting Since we barely discuss money with friends, acquaintances, or family, we often find ourselves dwelling on these beliefs for a long time until we’re out of money, and maybe realize how much we’ve fxxked up.

Hi guys, these are some of the steps I took towards having a stronger hold of my emotions; and I hope you find it helpful! 1. Trust the timing of your life, not someone else’s. 2. Break free from the rules you place on yourself . “Should“, “Shouldn’t“, “I better do”. Strive to be true to yourself instead. Image credit : Health shot

Hi guys let me start by saying that you can’t make anyone who doesn’t want to come back, to come back but these steps may work if they still love you so it’s worth a try! Following my last post on “How to get over an ex you still love”, I said I was going to write about this too because I also know how hard it can be to get over someone — especially when it seems they have moved on, and you haven’t.

Hi guys, on this topic, I’m going to be as realistic as possible! The truth is that it’s not easy to get over someone you once loved, still love, or have memories with; and sometimes breakups or heartbreaks are tough — especially when you didn’t see them coming. I’m here to guide you on ways you can move on from someone who doesn’t want you anymore, or when it’s no longer working!  Photo credit : exbackpermanently Before I share how you can move on from an ex, I'll need you to pause for a minute, and ask yourself if this person was actually good to you, and good for you. If your answer is yes, then keep reading! If your answer is no, then you should be halfway to moving on. The first thing is to: 1. Try Again Pride aside, if this person is worth fighting for, go on and see if you can fix things — especially if you're the one who wronged them, and they initiated the breakup. Now I’m not asking you to beg! There’s a difference between a genuine apology, and begging.  Don...

I read a true life of how a man set his wife ab.laze because he was an.gry she didn’t prepare food for him. It’s not just that she didn’t make his food, but she was literally washing his clothes at the moment he wanted food! In a typical African home, cooking is solely a woman’s responsibility hence a man doesn’t bother learning how to cook because he’s been taught that he’ll grow up someday, get married, and have his wife prepare every of his meals when he’s hungry! Image credit : Pixabay

I'm someone who believes that you either win or you learn. I do not like to use the word failure ; but for a better understanding of this post, I'll be doing that.  Photo credit : The failure syndrome I know we often say life is unfair which is true; but sometimes we are the architect of our problems because of how we use our time, our mindsets, and our beliefs! Many people have so many definitions of success, and it's not always monetary; but failure's definition is more like a one size fits all clothing - which is the inability to succeed at something. 

One thing about me is that I will always find a way to be happy - regardless of what I'm going through! You will barely hear me complain about anything; and this has often given people the impression that I don't have problems. Oh well. ..

I kind of felt the need to write about this because I'm used to girls and women always talking about the kind of man they want; and it's always TDRH (Tall, Dark, Rich, and Handsome).  Somehow, it's very okay when a woman lists all the qualities she wants in a man; but when a man does, it's a problem. Why is that? Let's talk about it! 

I like to call myself a free spirit, and for the most part of my life, I think I've always done things my own way, and this is because I grew up with so much love, and a certain amount of freedom - good freedom, I'll say! Unlike typical African homes where you're forbidden to get into relationships - hence you have to hide to do what you want, or even sneak around, it wasn't same with me. My first relationship ever, happened in the university, and my mum knew about it, and even got to know him. I felt a sense of safety with that - like this person can't just play me because my mum knew about him. I may have been right in my thoughts, or wrong. Image credit : All pro dad My mum taught me what was wrong, and what was right, and gave me the liberty to choose, and of course, I chose the good life - especially because there were so many expectations that I'll grow up being a disgrace to her since she let me do what I wanted. I was determined not to prove people with ...

Hi guys, I'll be explaining this with a short story. Few months ago, I did something unusual. One day, I woke up being annoyed with how I couldn't stay disciplined with my dieting, and I decided not to eat for 3 days. A complete 72 hours without any kind of food, except water. I wanted to test my willpower! 

You may or may not have known that the world's dirtiest man nicknamed Amou Haji from Iran, is dead at age 94. The last time he had his bath was at age 34 - meaning that he didn't shower for 60 years! 😱 photo credit : Getty Images

Hi guys, these are some of the facts I've learnt about relationships, and I hope you find them useful!  1. It's possible to spend all your time with someone for lots of years, and not get sick of them, and also love them more than when you first got together. Most people think you will get bored when you've been with someone for a long time, but it's not always true! Couples who understand each other, and truly love each other, tend to share this bond. 2. In a relationship where only one person gives, it'll always be that way! The one who takes will always take, and the one who gives will always give. At times the roles might switch but usually it remains the same. This doesn't just apply to couple relationships; it happens in friendships, and family (siblings, parents, guardians) relationships as well. 3. If they have no respect for you, they will say and do what they want without regards for your thoughts or feelings. It's that simple, and this applies...

Hi guys, how y’all doing? If you’ve been following my skincare posts for a while, you’ll know how much I love natural skincare, and my favorite skincare mantra is if it’s good for your body health, then it’s good for your skin health — so feed your skin that too! Even though our skin reflects what we eat — to an extent! photo credit : asianet I love face masks a lot — especially these natural ones; and this egg yolk, turmeric, and honey face mask is one of my favorites. It's great for those who have dry skin. Egg yolks are a great source of moisture. Honey, on the other hand, helps to restore the hydration levels of your skin. Both of them together nourish your skin cells, and give you that radiant glow.

Hi guys, welcome to another skincare talk day/night — depending on the time you’re reading this. I take skincare seriously because your skin is one of the first things people notice about you when they see you; and I’ve always believed and said that you don’t need to spend so much money to have or maintain a flawless skin. But not to be insensitive, I know a lot of people have battled with skin issues, and also spent a lot of money to have a great looking skin, and that is one of the reasons I’m sharing my skincare routine, and I hope it helps! A nighttime skincare routine that concentrates on hydration and repair can keep your skin firm and clear, and I also believe a night skincare routine is the most important because you get to sleep afterwards, and during sleep, your skin's blood flow increases, and the organ rebuilds its collagen and repairs damage from UV exposure thereby reducing wrinkles, and age spots. WATCH VIDEO Before I get started on my routine, please make sur...

Hi guys, what’s good! Welcome to another another skincare talk day! When I talk about the oils I use on my skin, I barely mention coconut oil, and there’s a reason for that! It’s not great for your skin; and I mean raw coconut oil!     Coconut oil is very common in homes because we use it to cook, sometimes even include it in our beauty regimen like skincare or hair care! Coconut oil is actually a great substitute for other oils when cooking, but you have to be careful about when you choose to use it because unrefined coconut oil has a smoke point of 350 degrees Fahrenheit according to  jonbarron.org